THAT GIRL! It’s a term most women use or think frequently. We make statements to ourselves and others such as: “I wish I was like ‘that girl'” or “I’d never be like ‘that girl'”. Some of what we think cannot be changed especially when it comes to inherent physical attributes, but when it concerns character issues, actions and weight we may become like “that girl” positively or negatively.
When we see people do something we think we would never do, the thought comes to our mind that we would never do that. In spite of the fact that we think this is a positive thought, in actuality, it is negative. It’s negative because the image we are giving ourselves at that moment is a negative one. When we say or think we do not want to be like “that”, the picture we paint in the mind is being “that” way. In order to become what we we do not want to be like, we must think about what we want to be like. Whatever we meditate on is what we see ourselves doing. The principle of meditation found in God’s word is in place no matter what we are thinking about. The image we want to have is the image God has painted in his word concerning who we are in Christ.
Another principle concerning not wanting to be like “that girl” is found in Romans 2:1 –
Rom. 2:1 ¶ No matter who you are, if you judge anyone, you have no excuse. When you judge another person, you condemn yourself, since you, the judge, do the same things. (God’s Word)
I like the way the Message paraphrases it:
Rom. 2:1 Those people are on a dark spiral downward. But if you think that leaves you on the high ground where you can point your finger at others, think again. Every time you criticize someone, you condemn yourself. It takes one to know one. Judgmental criticism of others is a well-known way of escaping detection in your own crimes and misdemeanors.
Ouch! Our criticism of others is a way of escaping from dealing with our own faults. It ends up becoming a judgment of them. This means we have to watch out because we are becoming what we are judging others about. It’s the little foxes that spoil the vine. Nipping the thought when it first comes eliminates it from becoming a big one. Continual thoughts become how we think and act. We cannot control the thoughts that come, but we can control which ones remain.
According to Romans 2:1, we see the fault in a person and become critical of them because we should be looking at our own faults and dealing with them using God’s word. This doesn’t mean that we do not acknowledge character issues in people’s lives. It means we know it’s there, pray for them and realize we could go in that direction, too. All flesh is the same. We are all vulnerable and must remain humble by acknowledging we have died with Christ and live through him.
In order to change, it takes meditation on where we want to be. The Bible is filled with God’s proclamation of who he made us to be in Christ. He sent Jesus because of our fallibility. We aren’t perfect. We never will be, but in Christ we are. (Heb.10:14) As we think about this, our actions follow. Joshua 1:8 says as we meditate on God’s word we see ourselves doing it. No matter what it is, we always see ourselves doing something before we do it.
I encourage you to take time to think about who God made you in Christ. This will stop you from criticizing yourself, others and keep you growing in the Lord. You are his child if you have made Jesus the Lord of your life. He lives in you and through you. You are THAT GIRL (the one you’d like to be).